I read this today on my lunch break. While in this case it’s a screenwriter putting the kibosh on doing favors for strangers, I think all of us with a specialized skill can relate. (This is also why attorneys are usually my favorite freelance clients – they pay promptly and totally “get” how annoying/insulting it is being asked to do as a favor what you do for pay.)
But all that aside, here’s a sentence that really stuck with me.
You put me in this spot where my only option is to acquiesce to your demands or be the bad guy. That, my friend, is the very definition of a dick move.
Someone contacted me this last weekend (on non-freelance-related matters) to try to reach someone else who wants nothing to do with them and has ignored voicemails, etc. I asked to be left out of it. The person contacting me then proceeded to lie, saying they didn’t have the other person’s contact information – which, again, I know they have. When confronted with that knowledge — because I hoped this person might feel a modicum of shame over being caught in a lie, drop it, and respect my request to be left out of the conflict — this person then turned it around on me without even acknowledging the lie, wishing me well in overwrought, schmaltzy terms.
Manipulation, lie, manipulation.
But, you know, Olson just says it better. When you want me to do something for you and you approach me as if not doing what you want — and let’s face it, what the person who contacted me really wanted was for me to be their advocate with the other – makes me a bad person, you are the one who is being unreasonable.